Thank you for visiting my introduction to infertility support groups.
Infertility is a very frustrating and, for some, embarrassing experience for families and you can very often feel isolated as a result. What people don’t realise is the actual scale of the problem and there are many people in the same position as you.
The second thing people fail to understand is that, in the majority of cases, infertility can be easily cured (if you want to use that word…. I prefer corrected myself).
How do Infertility Support Groups work then ?
Now, if you are thinking that infertility support groups, just sit around and spout out their history of trying to get pregnant for the past 7 or 8 years then you’d be wrong. In my experience, support groups are a lot more positive and do indeed focus on the positive steps that each individual can take to finally conceive and give birth to a healthy baby.
Of course it’s not just about the knowledge you will get from speaking to others, but the emotional pressure will also be released and this, in itself, might just be the tonic that could help you conceive a baby. There are two quotes that are very true :
- A problem shared is a problem halved
- There is strength in numbers
You will certainly feel more stress-free and in control having released your emotions to a support group – or even one individual – who understands what you are going through.
There will be people the support group that are either experiencing, or no someone else who is experiencing : polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), ovarian cysts, pelvic adhesions, fallopian tube blockage issues, fibroids, menstruation and menstrual cycles, missed periods, Gonadal Dysgenesis (aka Turner Syndrome), ovarian neoplasm, Luteal Dysfunction, Anovululation, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. I’ve even heard conversations about sex, STDs, vaginal odor and vaginal discharge !!! Basically, nothing will be off the menu of discussion.
Stress is now one of the main focuses against infertility and more studies are being undertaken on how infertility support groups can reduce the pressure.
Nice theory but where’s the evidence that infertility support groups actually work ?
Dormar & Associates confirmed a large increase in pregnancies for women in group therapy and infertility support groups, as opposed to women that had no support when undertaking infertility treatment. So :-
Group Therapy = Reduced Stress
A different study published in June 2006’s edition of Therapy Today showed that reducing cortisol (which is a hormone that is in high abundance when we are stressed) makes women more fertile. So :-
Reduced Stress = Reduced Cortisol = Higher Fertility
So, if you haven’t worked it out already :
Group Therapy = Reduced Stress = Reduced Cortisol = Higher Fertility
As you can see, resolving infertility really doesn’t have to be that difficult.
Are Infertility Support Groups good for men as well ?
The University of Nottingham in the United Kingdom undertook a study that observed an on-line forum which was for men who were struggling with infertility issues. The work looked at several months of conversations and proved that men are more likely to open up and unleash their feelings in this faceless type of environment.
Would they be as willing to open up in a local face to face type of support group ? Unfortunately the study didn’t cover that point, but my guess is that they would not be so willing to open up.
Which brings me nicely on to………..
Two Types of Infertility Support Groups
As I’ve alluded to above, there are two ways you could go regarding infertility support groups.
- Infertility Support Groups On-line
- Large pool of world-wide knowledge
- Likely to know about wider issues and the availability of up to date information
- Potentially you could really ‘open up’ as the face to face embarrassment isn’t an issue
- You might not want to share as much information with ‘faceless unknown people’
- You don’t know who you are dealing with
- Less likely to reduce your stress levels significantly, sitting at a computer screen looking at words
- Local Infertility Support Groups
- Physical human contact is likely to lower your stress levels
- More of a ‘homely feel’ to the group
- Could get to know the people really well and actually socialise with them outside of the support group – possible friends for life ?
- Likely to really open up when you get to know them
- Might not have the expertise that the potential on-line world could bring
- Initially, you might feel reluctant to ‘open up’ in front of people living in the same part of town as you
Okay, I can understand the benefits, so where can I find these infertility support groups ?
Online : Couldn’t be easier :
- Search Google for : on-line Infertility Support Groups
- Google do a fantastic job of providing on its first couple of pages groups that are most relevant to you
- Another option is to go to a site called www. http://boardreader.com/
- In the search box type : infertility support group or even just infertility
Local support :
If you are looking for a local infertility support group, then you can get local information from RESOLVE (The National Infertility Association) – USA residents :
But (and I’ve elaborated on this below) in many cases, just hearing about others problems will not be enough to turn round your infertility in itself. You WILL need to take some sort of positive action at some point – And I really can’t stress this point enough.
But I really don’t want to get involved in an infertility support group. Is there anywhere else I can get the knowledge without sharing my life with complete strangers ?
I fully appreciate that, for some moms (or dads), there is no way they want to share their frustrations with strangers or a wider audience, and would rather keep discreet regarding theirs (or their partners) issues.
The good news is that knowledge has been condensed into some first class on-line courses now and some even come with email support built into the price of the package. The one that comes with my highest recommendation is Pregnancy Miracle, by Lisa Olson.
Lisa, actually provides 3 months email support and I have found that is more than enough time to see you through her extensive course and for you to ask any questions you might have (This is so much better than just buying a book from Amazon, which obviously offer you no after sales support).
Click on the link, or the image below, to go directly through to Lisa’s web-site. Alternatively, you might want to read my honest review of Lisa’s course on this link : Pregnancy Miracle Review
Whichever route you decide to take, please remember that the sum of your knowledge has got you where you are today. In other words, if you want to progress then you MUST take some additional action. This could be by joining some infertility support groups, mentioned previously, or by taking a look at the course I’ve mentioned above.
Either way, please don’t fall into the trap that I’ve seen so many fall into, which is aimlessly surfing the internet for months on end – looking for that golden piece of information.
Infertility can be overcome, but what you need is a strong program to follow, rather than just tit-bits of unrelated information, which unfortunately will not add up to getting pregnant.
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